Wheres The "Love" In Relationships?

It’s all so beautiful, it’s all so mushy, it’s all so happy feeling. Suddenly you start to feel everything is just wonderful. Am talking about that feeling called “Love”. Everyone wants to fall in love, everyone wants someone to fulfill the loneliness that at some point in time does start to haunt you in one way or another!

You meet some one special and you start believing that you were waiting for this person and this is the person who can take away all the pain all the worries of your life that you otherwise feel, you are the only one dealing with it. You start to build up plans for future you start involving that person in your decisions you start building up innumerable thoughts that you may have cascaded in your mind and were waiting for the right person to come and smooth en it out with you, to walk the path with you.
When in love you suddenly start to feel that, the person who has entered in your life, is going to fulfill that empty part of you which, otherwise, your family, your good friends, your work, your hobbies, etc, can’t fulfill. You tend to give importance to that newly entered person suddenly more than anything or anyone, and that person becomes your priority, leaving every other important person or thing behind, which by the way, might have been with you for a longer period of time than that newly entered person.
So, now that you are in love, you have only one person who has all your attention, and whether you like it or not, demands all your time as well nonetheless. I want to ask everyone one question, how does a person who has just entered your life suddenly make you forget everything and everyone else that is important to you and have been there with you since day one? Moving on, I also want to know is love for real when you are in love with the person, do you know that it will last forever, do you know if the intention and the feeling of your new love is same as yours. I really can’t figure this one out, and most of us don’t bother to ask these questions to us, because we are preoccupied with the good feelings, and we simply, are scared to ask such questions, knowing somewhere back in mind, that there is a good possibility of getting hurt and your feelings crushed.

In love, you get to see a lot of hidden things about yourself as this feeling has the capacity to get the inner devil of you out in front of your eyes. Now by bringing devil out I mean to say is, you tend to do things against your will, suddenly you start a lot of compromise, adjustments for the person, either to please that person or simply to keep the relationship alive, because you are deeply in love. It also tends to make you go against your family your friends, it gets you aloof from everyone and makes you dependent on that one person who has just entered, without whom you start to feel there is nothing or no one more interesting left.

Saying this, It doesn’t really mean that this kinda feeling is mutual, in most cases, the one with sensitive heart and inclined more towards the emotion side of oneself, gets affected the most. In a relationship, if the other person is stronger than you, than he or she might just walk away hurting you without a scratch on his or her back, and you are left stranded in the middle of no where, suddenly getting the worst feeling possible, that too, to deal with it all alone.

Love, nowadays comes with lots of conditions, and one has to match up the virtual, hidden requirements of his or her partner, and like any Job or pleasure, has its own benefit, its own hidden agenda. One might overlook this fact in the beginning of the relationship, as one is too occupied with the morning dew drop effect of wet love fragrance, fact is, when it all starts to dry up, that’s when the ugly sunlight comes to eat up all the fragrance from the morning wet feel.

All am trying to say here is, love in today’s world has become too conditional and specially if it’s a love marriage in the making, one must pass the several terms and conditions criteria, if fit, you are granted to keep your love for life, if not you will be left alone to fight it out yourself from this addiction. The most important criteria however remains, is money! You fit in that and no love can ever go unfulfilled, by which I related this only to conditional love, off course that is when you can figure it out, If its conditional or unconditional.

I am not against love. I still know people who respect this feeling and have successful life with the ones they loved. I guess am just trying to bring the ugly side of people who derange this lovely gift called love by putting conditions, complexed with their greed and a stepping stone for a financially secured life! Who wouldn’t want that, but all am saying is that no person is big or small and no one knows what capabilities he or she might unfold in him or her, and certainly no one has seen the future.

So next time you judge a person you love and try to tailor make your relationship with all the terms and conditions fulfillment criteria, one request, please don’t fall in love, just get a person arranged for yourself. Respect yourself, respect the person you love, respect the very feeling called love.