"Acceptance"

“Life”, and many complications and emotions that comes free with it. It’s made up with lot of things. Lot of people, lot of emotions, lot of complications, lot of hardships, lot of love, lot of care, lot of success, lot of failures and so on and so forth. What is common here? Its that one thing, that one emotion that makes us strong, that helps us go on, that helps us to stand up and keep walking. What is that emotion? Its simple, it’s called "Acceptance." A pretty simple, yet extremely powerful word that fills our life with irony of a lot of definitions that builds up the tree of its definition. It’s like the core dogma of many religious beliefs too.

Acceptance mainly in today's generation, deals in love and work. A lot of us want us to get accepted by our peers, we want to get accepted by the love of our life, which maybe one sided, yet we would want that person to accept us. It, also deals with the social stigma of being a part of the culture or the surrounding groups we are involved in. It quickly takes the position of becoming a ruler of our mind and heart. We all feel the pressure of being loved and get accepted, and in the same way want to give love and accept the person we love. It suddenly becomes acquiescence in many situations but we still go ahead with it, because we don't want us to be left out alone.

So, what's the deal here? What are we trying to achieve here? Are we trying to prove that we cannot survive on our own? Are we trying to show our weakness by agreeing to everything bad that comes along our way because of the pressure we feel to get accepted? Why does it become so necessary to forget our self and mold our self to something that we don't want to do, or something that hurts our ego and self-respect along with our self esteem just to get accepted? Why do we feel bound towards pleasing someone in many aspects of our life, be it be professional or personal. Why do we keep doing things that we don't like yet doing it because we have a viable need to prove our self, which in a way is like getting accepted reluctantly, yet compulsorily.

Relationships for example, have a lot of pressure on us with the irony of getting accepted. I, somehow, am one of those, who have constantly adjusted myself and in the process of doing so, kept modifying the core of me so that I can fit into the surroundings and the unreasonable things it keeps demanding from me. I know many of you have been heart broken, abused by love, worked out and forgot the many happiness that came along your way just so that you can get accepted by your boss, by your family, by your lover. We are born original, but the fact of getting accepted everywhere in life, changes us so much that we forget what we were born as and become totally different personality. I surely am unambiguous with this fact that being accepted changes the core functionality of my thinking and how I want to be.

I would simply like to imply the importance here of remaining original and remaining true to you; regardless of how many tough situations life throws towards us. I want you to believe in yourself and accept the things as they come to you. Accept the pain when you are ditched in love, accept the happiness when you get appreciated and loved. Accept the fact that you live a better life than many out there. Accept the beauty of yourself. Accept the willingness that god has bestowed upon us, to move on to find the many goodies that he has kept in store for us. 

Look around there are many who accepts you for what you are and loves you for what you are. There are many things and many people who are waiting for your acceptance too. So reach out to them and show them that you accept. Accept your life, as you want it to be and what god has designed for you. Don't come under pressure of changing yourself just because of the peer pressure of being accepted. Acceptance can be positive if you want it to be and similarly can be negative if you surrender to it. Take acceptance as a belief to believe in you. Always.

“Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and only with acceptance can there be recovery.” 
― J.K. Rowling