What Will People Say
Life as we all know it, keeps giving us harsh twists and realities that we are not ready to face! I fail to understand how life can always be so ready to pull us down. I guess it keeps forgetting, that we are not god and we really are not ready to face everything and still stand tall at all times.
Love, for example, is the sweet poison of life. You cant really live without it, and sometimes you really have nothing else but to be at the mercy of it. Humans, are after all, social animals, and they are always dependent on some or the other kind of togetherness and social beings. We are just not made to be alone, no matter how strong we think we are and no matter how much strong we want us to believe we are. But, does, the person you want to be with or love, necessarily become yours, always? I guess not. So Bam! The harsh reality hits you again!
We fall in love, without really doing all the necessary checks, and like life, it does not come with instruction manuals. So half way through, you tend to wish, that it should have come with pre checked terms and conditions. I necessarily do not mean to blame "love" only here, the society, the rules; the regulations, are the main culprit here. Suddenly it becomes highly important to meet expectations of the society and not oneself.
You need to ensure that you are good looking, you need to ensure you have a decent background, you need to ensure you have a good job and a good reputed family. You need to ensure you are fair (another social stigma of our society) You need to ensure that the person you are in love with meets all the criteria and sometimes more than the ones mentioned. I mean, your own family will forget that what your own son/daughter might be going through, but it will be very important to satisfy the line "What will people say?"
Till the time the above mentioned line is alive and kicking, a lot many lives are going to get wasted for nothing! Welcome to the 21st century!
Exactly...we, as Indians, are bound by the societal norms which are imposed on us right from birth..be it love, be it relationships, be it education...whichever field, whichever area of life we take, nothing is left out without having a rule book attached to it which people expect us to follow willingly or unwillingly no matter howsoever illogical and unrelated those rules maybe..and the one who tries to have a way out of the imbibed norms and regulations, it becomes a social stigma...if you want to come out of your unhealthy marriage, you face the social stigma of being a divorcee..if you fail in any exam, you are humiliated to the point that you think suicide is the better option than staying alive...if you are left behind by your beloved, society will point out fingers on you thinking you are not up to the standards of becoming someone else's life mate...
ReplyDeleteas they say charity begins from home..same ideology needs to be applied for every matter of life...one has to change ones thinking, mentality right from ones home first and then only one can at least expect of bringing change in the outer world...